Who Wins?

Thirty-five years ago any child who was active and who lived in a town with a half-decent recreational sports program could easily become a three-sport athlete. OK. to be honest, any boy, and a few girls who lived 35 years ago experienced this, since Title IX had only recently passed. Sports were broken up into…

Connecting as Parents

The rational side of my brain refuses to fully embrace the fluffy concepts of cosmic connections and new age states of mind, but I find myself in the midst of such vortices too often to not take notice. Three weeks ago I finally committed myself to undertaking writing a new book. The current working title…

Late Start

For a few years now – ever since the release of the 2009 PISA scores – Finland has been heralded as the new model for Western education, except for the fact that our modeling has been more after South Korea (intense pressure on students) than Finland. What has come out of Finland recently is that…

I’m Not Ready for Girlfriend Issues

This has been going on for a few months now: our oldest son’s relationship with his girlfriend. This is totally uncharted territory for my wife and me. A child with a girlfriend. It’s a great first relationship for him. I think, but I don’t really know. After all, what I’ve often said to my son…

Problems in Education Run Deep

Maybe there’s something wrong with how we see the world, and ourselves. In a recent Huffington Post article by Karin Chenoweth, three examples are paraded that illustrate the differences between the current US educational environment, and those of Finland, Poland and South Korea, as seen through the eyes of foreign exchange students from the US.…

I have to be a parent?

I hate when my son’s behavior forces me into a situation where I actually have to be a parent. Yes. I just wrote that. Writing this, and seeing it in print does make the statement look ludicrous, but it doesn’t change how I feel about what’s recently happened. At the end of the last school…

What’s Best for Your Child?

The vast majority of parents want to do right by their children. One Early Childhood and Family Education (ECFE) educator I once met put it this way, “In the literally thousands of parents I’ve come to know in my career, I only know of one who truly did not care about her child.” Seeing that…

Calm the F Down

We parents often make parenting much more difficult than it needs to be. The recent press on the easily articulated Calm the Fudge* Down (yes a different word other than Fudge is used), is a great reminder that we do need to calm the F down. Even when presented with more challenging situations that matter…

The Big Break

I’ve often mentioned how parenting is about patience. Parenting is also about letting go, and letting children take chances, some of which can result in injury. Are we responsible, as parents, to try to mitigate risk where possible? Absolutely. In fact I have 100 square yards of bubble wrap on order. But I wonder if…

Parenting: The Grand Experiment

Last night, for the first time…maybe ever (and I’m not proud of that)…I shed my arrogant façade and was open to hearing what someone else had to say about a topic I feel like I know something about: parenting. The occasion was a parenting workshop entitled “Goldilocks Parenting.” Of course I was intrigued by the…