Define Parent

parent /ˈpɛːr(ə)nt/ A person’s father or mother. That’s it. That’s the definition from the Oxford English Dictionary. But it comes with so much more weight doesn’t it? And the weight is contextual with every parent feeling that weight differently. Understandable, but confusing. Confusing? Yes. Confusing. In the dozen years I have been reading about what…

Wrong Side of the Bed

Perhaps I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed

Is this depression, anxiety, or just a shitty day? The constant sense of dread attached to me like a heavy shadow. When I feel this way the shadow is most often falling behind me, cast from the bright light of whatever is really bothering. Every so often I am able to get the light behind…

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I am a chameleon

Of course, all of this was subconscious, and something I have only been able to understand as an adult. Children always help in moments of self-realization if you’re open to having your children teach you things about yourself. I’ve watched my children navigate moves – we have relocated them three times in the past 13…

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But what about…

Letting go is a great thing. But letting go doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone one, or for every situation. In this case I’m talking about letting go of outcomes to be in the moment, to be present and be fully engaged in what is in front of me at that time. But this…

Kids on swings

Swayed identity

I’ve always loved kids. From a very young age I’ve been captivated by the innocence of young children, by how they have no filter, allowing their emotions and opinions to flow unencumbered. I was so captivated by kids that I babysat as a young teen, but found those jobs dried up as I got older.…

Stephen Sheffield

I’m a parent. I will always be a parent.

Yes, I’m a parent. And not just a parent, but a 52 year-old man who has been a stay-at-home father for the past 11 years. When I first started on my personal journey of being a stay-at-home father, I was open to the prospect, but subconsciously reluctant, the feeling of which came out slowly, subtly,…

How do you parent in the face of Trump?

I started writing this a day or so before Super Tuesday, and then it happened. If you had the opportunity to be watching CNN on that night, you would have seen the exchange between Van Jones and Jeffrey Lord. The moment when Van spoke about his seven-year-old son using the word “liar” because he had…

Parenting out of Fear

How often have you considered how fear drives your parenting? This isn’t an indictment of anyone, or any type of parenting style. It’s an intellectual exercise. OK. I’m lying a little bit. I’m fairly certain that if any of you reading this truly reflects upon this question, you will realize how much fear drives so…

Why do we parent the way we do?

Why do we parent the way we do? Because we want to be parented the same way we were? Because we want to be parented totally opposite from how we were parented? Let’s take the question one step further. If your parenting works out perfectly, what do you expect to be the result of your…

How to be a better parent (one way, at least)

“What do I do to be a better parent?” When conversations swing around to either Trusting Education or bent spoon, the above question, in one form or another, inevitably comes around. On those most difficult of days, I feel I’m the one asking the question. The hardest thing about parenting is that there is no…