Parenting out of Fear

How often have you considered how fear drives your parenting? This isn’t an indictment of anyone, or any type of parenting style. It’s an intellectual exercise. OK. I’m lying a little bit. I’m fairly certain that if any of you reading this truly reflects upon this question, you will realize how much fear drives so…

Why do we parent the way we do?

Why do we parent the way we do? Because we want to be parented the same way we were? Because we want to be parented totally opposite from how we were parented? Let’s take the question one step further. If your parenting works out perfectly, what do you expect to be the result of your…

How to be a better parent (one way, at least)

“What do I do to be a better parent?” When conversations swing around to either Trusting Education or bent spoon, the above question, in one form or another, inevitably comes around. On those most difficult of days, I feel I’m the one asking the question. The hardest thing about parenting is that there is no…

I’m Not Ready for Girlfriend Issues

This has been going on for a few months now: our oldest son’s relationship with his girlfriend. This is totally uncharted territory for my wife and me. A child with a girlfriend. It’s a great first relationship for him. I think, but I don’t really know. After all, what I’ve often said to my son…

Supplemental Education

Just when I was about to come down hard on my oldest son for his slipping grades, we got to the root of the problem, which I wonder if it is a problem at all. Except for the first quarter of the school year, his grades have somewhat ping-ponged. The final grades for each quarter…

Dinner Time

So many articles directed towards parents emphasize the importance of sitting the family down around the dinner table. We, sadly, don’t do it enough, but we do make a big enough deal about it that our boys know it’s important. When the boys were very young, getting them around the dinner table was a chore.…

On the way to school

An interesting conversation with my oldest unfolded the other morning in the car as I was driving him to Middle School. “What would make school more interesting?” I asked. “Not having school.” was his terse reply. I took this with a  grain of salt since he was in the middle of making up for 10…

Feeling Better

2009 has seen a lot of illness march through our house. From head colds to H1N1 we have yet to have an entire month where at least one person in the family was not sick. December is now no different.

Winning Moments

The holiday season is that wonderful time of the year when you get to spend more time with your family. Family time means all sorts of things from quiet moments to laughing fits. But as happens in most families, this family time rarely crescendos in scenes that someone would find in an Ozzie and Harriet TV show from the 50s, more like a vignette from the Simpsons.

Our youngest boy is now in second grade. Given his prowess at manipulating simple numbers, we figured a game of Monopoly was in order, so a day before Thanksgiving, while we were still visiting the in-laws, we christened a new game.

Our youngest was the most excited about the prospect. He tore the plastic off of the game, and started setting it up in his own way, since he really had no idea what he was doing. He was also too impatient to read the game’s directions, for which he had the reading skills, but he was hampered by the manic energy of a seven year old who wanted nothing more than to be the car in the game.