How do you parent in the face of Trump?

I started writing this a day or so before Super Tuesday, and then it happened. If you had the opportunity to be watching CNN on that night, you would have seen the exchange between Van Jones and Jeffrey Lord. The moment when Van spoke about his seven-year-old son using the word “liar” because he had…

Parenting out of Fear

How often have you considered how fear drives your parenting? This isn’t an indictment of anyone, or any type of parenting style. It’s an intellectual exercise. OK. I’m lying a little bit. I’m fairly certain that if any of you reading this truly reflects upon this question, you will realize how much fear drives so…

Why do we parent the way we do?

Why do we parent the way we do? Because we want to be parented the same way we were? Because we want to be parented totally opposite from how we were parented? Let’s take the question one step further. If your parenting works out perfectly, what do you expect to be the result of your…

How to be a better parent (one way, at least)

“What do I do to be a better parent?” When conversations swing around to either Trusting Education or bent spoon, the above question, in one form or another, inevitably comes around. On those most difficult of days, I feel I’m the one asking the question. The hardest thing about parenting is that there is no…

Who Wins?

Thirty-five years ago any child who was active and who lived in a town with a half-decent recreational sports program could easily become a three-sport athlete. OK. to be honest, any boy, and a few girls who lived 35 years ago experienced this, since Title IX had only recently passed. Sports were broken up into…

Connecting as Parents

The rational side of my brain refuses to fully embrace the fluffy concepts of cosmic connections and new age states of mind, but I find myself in the midst of such vortices too often to not take notice. Three weeks ago I finally committed myself to undertaking writing a new book. The current working title…

I’m Not Ready for Girlfriend Issues

This has been going on for a few months now: our oldest son’s relationship with his girlfriend. This is totally uncharted territory for my wife and me. A child with a girlfriend. It’s a great first relationship for him. I think, but I don’t really know. After all, what I’ve often said to my son…

I have to be a parent?

I hate when my son’s behavior forces me into a situation where I actually have to be a parent. Yes. I just wrote that. Writing this, and seeing it in print does make the statement look ludicrous, but it doesn’t change how I feel about what’s recently happened. At the end of the last school…

What’s Best for Your Child?

The vast majority of parents want to do right by their children. One Early Childhood and Family Education (ECFE) educator I once met put it this way, “In the literally thousands of parents I’ve come to know in my career, I only know of one who truly did not care about her child.” Seeing that…

Calm the F Down

We parents often make parenting much more difficult than it needs to be. The recent press on the easily articulated Calm the Fudge* Down (yes a different word other than Fudge is used), is a great reminder that we do need to calm the F down. Even when presented with more challenging situations that matter…