The Big Break

I’ve often mentioned how parenting is about patience. Parenting is also about letting go, and letting children take chances, some of which can result in injury. Are we responsible, as parents, to try to mitigate risk where possible? Absolutely. In fact I have 100 square yards of bubble wrap on order. But I wonder if…

Parenting: The Grand Experiment

Last night, for the first time…maybe ever (and I’m not proud of that)…I shed my arrogant façade and was open to hearing what someone else had to say about a topic I feel like I know something about: parenting. The occasion was a parenting workshop entitled “Goldilocks Parenting.” Of course I was intrigued by the…

Supplemental Education

Just when I was about to come down hard on my oldest son for his slipping grades, we got to the root of the problem, which I wonder if it is a problem at all. Except for the first quarter of the school year, his grades have somewhat ping-ponged. The final grades for each quarter…

Dinner Time

So many articles directed towards parents emphasize the importance of sitting the family down around the dinner table. We, sadly, don’t do it enough, but we do make a big enough deal about it that our boys know it’s important. When the boys were very young, getting them around the dinner table was a chore.…

I still love you

Mornings I drive our oldest to school. There is a school bus he can take, but when he asked for a ride instead, because he found the ride on the bus terribly annoying, I jumped at the chance to drive him. I saw it as an opportunity for us to have a daily check-in, to…

The right fit

We had a recent struggle with our youngest not doing so well on a spelling test. Came to pass that he’s finally bumped up against something in school in which he’s going to have to finally exert some effort. We knew this day would come, and hoped it would happen sooner, as it had with…

On the way to school

An interesting conversation with my oldest unfolded the other morning in the car as I was driving him to Middle School. “What would make school more interesting?” I asked. “Not having school.” was his terse reply. I took this with a  grain of salt since he was in the middle of making up for 10…

Grades Don’t Matter

Ever since our oldest was in 4th grade I’ve told him that I’ve never cared about his grades; I care about how hard he is trying. If he’s trying his hardest, and getting good guidance from both his teachers and from me as to how to apply that effort – again with the parent, teacher partnership I find to…

Calm Before the Storm

For almost two years bent spoon has been on a sort of hiatus. Even with moving from Northern California to the great state of Minnesota – something that I was convinced would create much more consternation among the boys than it did – there has not been much to talk about. Bent spoon first started…