How do you parent in the face of Trump?

I started writing this a day or so before Super Tuesday, and then it happened. If you had the opportunity to be watching CNN on that night, you would have seen the exchange between Van Jones and Jeffrey Lord. The moment when Van spoke about his seven-year-old son using the word “liar” because he had…

Parenting out of Fear

How often have you considered how fear drives your parenting? This isn’t an indictment of anyone, or any type of parenting style. It’s an intellectual exercise. OK. I’m lying a little bit. I’m fairly certain that if any of you reading this truly reflects upon this question, you will realize how much fear drives so…

How to be a better parent (one way, at least)

“What do I do to be a better parent?” When conversations swing around to either Trusting Education or bent spoon, the above question, in one form or another, inevitably comes around. On those most difficult of days, I feel I’m the one asking the question. The hardest thing about parenting is that there is no…

Connecting as Parents

The rational side of my brain refuses to fully embrace the fluffy concepts of cosmic connections and new age states of mind, but I find myself in the midst of such vortices too often to not take notice. Three weeks ago I finally committed myself to undertaking writing a new book. The current working title…

I’m Not Ready for Girlfriend Issues

This has been going on for a few months now: our oldest son’s relationship with his girlfriend. This is totally uncharted territory for my wife and me. A child with a girlfriend. It’s a great first relationship for him. I think, but I don’t really know. After all, what I’ve often said to my son…

I have to be a parent?

I hate when my son’s behavior forces me into a situation where I actually have to be a parent. Yes. I just wrote that. Writing this, and seeing it in print does make the statement look ludicrous, but it doesn’t change how I feel about what’s recently happened. At the end of the last school…

What’s Best for Your Child?

The vast majority of parents want to do right by their children. One Early Childhood and Family Education (ECFE) educator I once met put it this way, “In the literally thousands of parents I’ve come to know in my career, I only know of one who truly did not care about her child.” Seeing that…

Calm the F Down

We parents often make parenting much more difficult than it needs to be. The recent press on the easily articulated Calm the Fudge* Down (yes a different word other than Fudge is used), is a great reminder that we do need to calm the F down. Even when presented with more challenging situations that matter…

The Big Break

I’ve often mentioned how parenting is about patience. Parenting is also about letting go, and letting children take chances, some of which can result in injury. Are we responsible, as parents, to try to mitigate risk where possible? Absolutely. In fact I have 100 square yards of bubble wrap on order. But I wonder if…

Parenting: The Grand Experiment

Last night, for the first time…maybe ever (and I’m not proud of that)…I shed my arrogant façade and was open to hearing what someone else had to say about a topic I feel like I know something about: parenting. The occasion was a parenting workshop entitled “Goldilocks Parenting.” Of course I was intrigued by the…